“Knowing where the trap is—that’s the first step in evading it.”
― Frank Herbert
Over my 20 years, I’ve run into a nice fistful of traps, some big, some small. I felt like sharing some of them with you today.
The first is the trap of having no tangible routine.
I’ve spent a lot of time going with the flow, never really investing too much time and energy into one thing. Every time I’m in this mindset I notice little by little that it’s hard for me to be consistently satisfied and that my criteria for feeling good are further and further away from my natural state, it’s like I get so tied up in what I’m doing that I forget that I’m being. When I’m in these slumps its as if the muscles I need to lift my life start to weaken and even the lighter weight of a smaller situations starts to feel heavy.
The second trap is having too tangible of a routine.
On the other side of the coin, usually, when I exhaust the first trap, I can swing too far on the other end of the spectrum and find myself getting uptight and not able to go with the flow at all. I forget to enjoy little pleasures like going to see a movie or grabbing a coffee with friends.
The third trap is judgment.
This one has been big for me and something I still find myself doing from time to time. I judge others out of fear and misunderstanding. It’s so easy to sit and babble about people and how they do this and how they do that. Yet, when I think about it, I don’t know why someone does what they do or what lives they’ve led to bring them to do what they’re doing, sure it might not be right from my point of view but what I’m doing might not be right from there one. I’ve come to see is that my judgments are like roller coasters, they feel like they’re going somewhere, some grand direction, but I always end up just where I started.
The fourth trap is talking too much without saying anything.
Sometimes I notice my tongue flapping in the wind, making god knows what sounds, I’m not saying anything just talking. I always have these funny moments where I realise that I’ve just been doing that and find myself instantly humbled.
The fifth trap is not sharing.
Sharing something that brings me joy is lovely. Its a gentle and childlike thing when someone else’s smile shares the same source as mine, it feels right in the best way. I believe that the deepest sources of happiness are the ones we can share, that’s why I started this blog, too share what means the most to me with you.
That’s just a few of the traps I’ve found myself in. I hope having me point them out can assist you in avoiding them haha.
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